男女分手的三大成因

The Top 3 Reasons Relationships Fail
分手的3大原因

Based on the intrinsic complexity of personal feelings, there are an endless number of reasons why relationships fail. However, I believe there are 3 primary factors that form the basis for which every other problem stems. When a relationship turns sour you can be sure that at least 1 of these 3 factors is to blame.

基于每个人感受天生的复杂性，有无数的原因会导致情侣分手。然而，我认为有3条主要的因素是导致其他所有问题的根源。如果一段感情开始变坏，那么可以肯定这3条因素里面至少有一条是罪魁祸首。

1. Do I really like her, or just her gestures? – Everyone loves attention. When a member of the opposite sex goes out of their way to make you aware of it, it feels good. If they repeat the action a few more times and you return the favor, a shallow relationship forms. The true measure of compatibility occurs shortly there after. Once the initial excitement of this attention wears thin, what are you left with? Do you really like who this person is, or did you just enjoy their gestures? On occasion people you like will take actions you dislike. Likewise, people you dislike will get your attention by taking actions you do like. It’s important to understand both sides and be capable of distinguishing between the two.

1、我真的喜欢她这个人？还是说你只是喜欢她表现出的姿态？——每个人都喜欢受人瞩目。如果一大堆异性特意地去引起你的注意，你会感到很棒。如果他（她）们这样再来几次，而你也给以相应的回报，那么一段浅层的感情就建立起来了。而能否和睦相处的真正考验在不久后就会来临。一旦最初对于这种关注的兴奋慢慢退去，你们还剩下什么？你真的喜欢那个人吗，还是你只是喜欢他（她）们表现出的姿态？你喜欢的人有时会表现出你不喜欢的行为，同样你不喜欢的人有时也会表现出你喜欢的行为从而引起你的注意。要理解并能够分辨出这两者之间的区别是非常重要的。

2. We have stability and reliability, but I’m bored. – Once a relationship gets serious this is one of the top killers. We all want excitement in our lives. One of the most exciting things in life is discovering the unknown. Curiosity is what keeps us moving forward, but one must learn to properly hone curiosity. The first part of a serious relationship is primarily about the discovery of your partner’s entire aura. But once you know everything about them, where do you turn for a source of excitement? The answer is quite simple. Discover new things and create new experiences together. The only thing more fulfilling than a new experience is the act of sharing that same experience with someone else.